Is it true? Men that use women?

I was talking to a friend last night that had recently broken up a person that she adored greatly, and someone that she had a lot of feeling for. Everything was rosy for a time, but then the unthinkable happened for her. The person that she loved dearly and did everything for said that he felt the time with her was over. He felt that he didn’t “love” her in that kind of way. Furthermore, they had already been intimate, and for her that was special. And now, it showed it meant nothing.

I talked and listened to what she had to say. There are things that she said that made me feel mad toward that man. I won’t say the details, but nevertheless as a result she felt that the reason why he felt like that way towards her was because of her. I thought otherwise. She felt used. I felt that she should not consider that it was her fault. She was the perfect lady. It’s his loss.

This got me wondering about men’s behaviours when it comes to having a relationship with a woman. I wonder how many men out there are like that to their partners? Drop the pinball on them after being intimate for such a long time? I think that there are a few out there. Woman that want the ‘package’ man with the fast car and loads of cash, in my humble opinion are going to get burned.

This is simply because these men “KNOW” about themselves. They know that they can get whatever girl they like. So they just choose to be with a girl until they have had their fun wrapping them into their fingers and then dropping the bomb on them once the going gets tough.

There are men out there, whose character the opposite. They are charming, but they may not have the “full” package with cars, the looks…money. But you can be guaranteed that they will be fun loving people that will stay with you in good times or bad. 🙂

Change

Change is a weird typical kind of feeling. Especially when its outside the comfort zone. People react to change very differently to others. Others are afraid, and perhaps exaggerate perspectivs out of proportion which makes it hard to ease oneself into a new environment or setting. There are others who just put their head in their sand and refuse to accept that there is any change. They just carry on the way that they while being oblivious to what is going on around them. Others just blame. Then there are those that accept change..I would err on the side that they are cautious but they are interested to see what new change has to offer.

I certainly know what category I would like to be. Admittedly, when I was young, I sometimes “put my head in the sand” to change or blame others, but more recentlly I have been welcoming change. Understanding it. Embracing it rather than fighting it. As we grow older, we become wiser and appreciate what life has to offer. Forget about what happen in the past and live to the future! 🙂